Dealing with emotions – What is honesty?

What is honesty?

“Integrity is telling myself the truth, and honesty is telling the truth to other people”….Spencer Johnson

Most of us are not honest either with ourselves or with others. How many people when asked “how are you?” reply “very well thanks” or “fine thank you” which is actually far from the truth. Not many of us really are very well or fine. Many of us are often sad, depressed, stressed, angry, or resentful and much more.

While I applaud everyone who works hard at staying positive I feel that the times we are in now are all about being authentic to ourselves, and others, and this requires true honestly. We can no longer pretend that we are something that we are not.

If you are one of those people who is pretending to be happy and positive but have repressed negative emotions such as anger, resentment and fear, somewhere at some time all that negative energy inside you is going to come out and will effect either your physical health, your spiritual health, or your emotional health, and possibly all three.

This is often the reason behind a person who suddenly looses their temper over a small thing. That small thing is the tipping point that releases some of the build up of the suppressed negativity within.

Living in an honest way is taking responsibility for ourselves, in every moment, and being brutally honest about how we are feeling and doing something to change ourselves.

Over the years I have met many spiritual people who believe themselves to be in a great emotional place, believe themselves to be loving and evolved beings when the truth is, they are a long way from this state. By the way I was one of those spiritual people, before I began to admit to myself that I was actually not who I was pretending to be!

We need to face our fears honestly and deal with them, and heal them. It is only then that we can begin to become our authentic self, and by learning to recognise the truth about ourselves on a daily basis, we can move forward, change and evolve that we can then actually get to a point when asked how we are we can respond by saying… “absolutely fantastic thanks” and mean it!

One of the ways that you can start to do this, and deal with your emotions in a positive way is using ICH therapy